When I was much younger, nineteen to be exact, I went through a training program in order to become a “shift leader” for the company I worked for at that time. I literally grew up during my employment with Wildflower Bread Co. It was challenging; being so young with so much responsibility. It all happened so fast. For a very long time I really enjoyed my role as a leader and the fact that I was making a difference. I was actually doing something with my life back then. Months turned into years and it eventually did take a huge toll on me. I’m thankful it ended the way it did. I needed to be ripped away from that lifestyle to regain some balance in my life.
Over the course of eight years, my boss required us to read a lot of literature on topics ranging from leadership to management to restaurant successes and failures, as well as self motivational types. The book I was assigned to read in my previously mentioned shift leader class was called “The Four Agreements”. I learned a lot of life lessons as a manager during those years and I do look back on that particular book and realize how relevant it truly is. I should learn how to follow these ideas as they do make complete sense and could definitely benefit my life.
The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz:
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.